“Food is not about impressing people. It’s about making them feel comfortable”. I happened to read these lines by Ina Garten (The Barefoot Contessa Cookbook) and loved them. They have stayed with me since and have made me think more and more. The words are so true! The simplest of the simple meal can touch you much more than the most elaborately served spreads. It is true of most of other things as well. If we always try and do things to impress others, there is a greater chance of it not actually reaching others. Food is a very basic need and with this example, the essence and depth of the message it gives is immense. It can be applied to almost any facet of life. If one can make others comfortable, they have achieved the purpose. It can be applied in inter-personal relations (student-teacher, employer-employee, husband-wife, parent-child, colleagues, friends, in-laws, producer-consumer, neta-junta) cutting across all boundaries. If a comfort level is achieved between any two people the relationship is cemented. It’s important to shift the focus a little and that’s it. Analyze all successful inter-personal relations which I mentioned above and you will see for yourself what I mean! For some, impressing others may be easier than making them feel comfortable but if you are looking at a long term relationship, I think making others comfortable beats all others.